Monday, January 31, 2011

Mindset Monday 1/31/11- Think Big

There is no factor more crucial to your success than your self-image. –David DeNotaris

Only a person with a big self-image can achieve big dreams. Donald Trump says, “if you are going to think anyway, you might as well think big…real big.”

In many of his books, Trump speaks about a story of himself and former president Jimmy Carter. Carter gave Trump a phone call asking him for a multi-million dollar donation to his new library. Trump was surprised by this request because he was always very vocal about his disagreements with many of the former president’s policies. Trump declined Carter’s offer, but withdrew a valuable lesson from the situation. He said that this experience made him realize why Carter was a US president: he had the ability to think really big.

One of the greatest influences on my wrestling career was Darren Schulman, a 2 time Division 1 All-American, NJ state champion. I was fortunate to have Darren as one of my coaches and mentors when I was in college. Darren asked me, while I was a young freshman, what my goals in college were. I told him I wanted to be an All-American when I was a senior. Coach Schulman, who is a no nonsense guy, told me in no uncertain terms that my goal was not high enough. He said that my goal should be to win the nationals THAT YEAR. I was a little surprised by his idea, but it didn’t take me long to realize that THIS IS THE REASON HE WAS SO SUCCESSFUL. He thinks big. He still thinks big. Whenever I think my goals are high, I have a talk with him and I quickly realize that I should raise the bar even higher.

Darren Schulman was and is a great wrestler and coach. He is the owner and head coach of SugarFoot School of Wrestling. I recommend you check out his website at:

http://www.sugarfootwrestling.com/

A person who does not believe they will succeed decreases their chances of success significantly. –Gene Zannetti

As a senior in college at the University of Pennsylvania, I conducted a sociological experiment with my good friend Zach Bretz. We asked students, “Where do you see yourself on the socio-economic scale in the next 10 years?” We gave the categories Below Average, Average, Slightly Above Average, Well Above Average, and Living the American Dream. Much to our surprise, most people projected themselves at only Slightly Above Average. These were some of the best and brightest in an IVY LEAGUE SCHOOL! How could they only see themselves at slightly above average? Zach and I saw ourselves Living the American Dream, so should you!

I submit to you, that if you choose to be a State Champ, National Champ, or Living the American Dream, you will have a better chance of achieving it than your small minded peers. Have you ever heard a post game interview where the champion said, “I never thought I could win.” I haven’t, and I know there is a lesson to take from that.

Think big. Go For the gold. If people aren’t laughing at your goals, they probably aren’t high enough.

Gene Zannetti
Peak Performance Specialist
One-on-One Consultation and Motivational Speaking
(908) 337-6143
genezannetti@gmail.com
Visit My Blog- http://genezannetti.blogspot.com/

Monday, January 24, 2011

Mindset Monday 1/24/11- Watch FLOW and 4 easy steps to attain it

For the past three weeks we have been discussing the Flow state in sport and performance. As we have said:

Flow is an experience (not exclusive to sports) where a person is immersed in an activity and has their mind focused on the present moment while losing consciousness of ego, self-evaluations, and the audience and audience evaluations. Things seem to fall into place as the unconscious takes over and a self-transcendence is reached.
This week we will present videos of 2 athletes in Flow and give 4 of the most important tips on ways for YOU to CREATE this mindset in YOURSELF, absolutely positively guaranteed.

Flow caught on tape!

FLOW 1

1992 NBA Finals Game 1. Michael Jordan scored a finals record of 35 points in the 1st half. This included six 3-pointers, another record. Watch Jordan's face throughout the video. He does not get excited, he simply keeps doing his thing. Only after his 6th 3-pointer do we see him finally show emotion and reflection of the situation- he shrugs his shoulders, as if to say I don't know how this is happening.

This is Flow:
Michael Jordan-
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=86KRYhXyPBo&feature=related

FLOW 2
Autistic student, Jason McElwain was the team manager for his high school basketball team. The last game of the season, his coached allowed his to dress. With two minutes left in the game, the coach gave Jason the signal to go in. After 2 missed shots, Jason McElwain does something extraordinary. He attained Flow. He made the next 6 shots in a row. Watch this clip and see what I'm talking about. He makes 3 in a row and its very exciting. And then it starts to get freaky, as he makes 3 more. It's a little bit scary to watch someone in this Flow state because for a little while, potential is reached and self-transcendence is achieved. Limits seem to disappear. Anything becomes possible.

Jason McElwain- http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p6cOp6EDFlI&feature=related

Jason illustrates how Flow is not exclusive to anyone, or any group of people.

This video makes me think of a quote I heard a long time ago by Marianne Williamson:
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

While it may not be possible to will a Flow state, it is my firm belief that you can facilitate it, and thus make it more likely to happen.

Steps to facilitate Flow-

1* Practice Trusting your abilities.
[Know there is a difference between Training and Trusting. Training is analysis of behavior and technical awareness. Trusting is the act of Letting Go and allowing your instincts to take over. Both are necessary to become successful. Remember the timeless wisdom, you need to practice the way you want to play. This means if in a game you want to be in a Trusting mode, you must spend time in practice actually practicing Trusting. Dr. Bob Rotell recommends if you are a golfer you practice 70% of your shots in a Trusting Mindset. You can apply that theory to any sport or trade.]

2* Practice Letting Go of Your ego and Value Judgments (good vs. bad, right vs wrong) in Sports...and in Life. Just see things as they are. [Note- This does NOT apply to your morals.]

3* Practice staying in the Present Moment and having an alert yet clear mind. [Watch the movie Peaceful Warrior to get a better sense of this.]

4* Learn about meditation and practice it on your own on a regular basis.

Gene Zannetti
Peak Performance Specialist
One-on-One Consultation and Motivational Speaking
(908) 337-6143
genezannetti@gmail.com
Visit My Blog- http://genezannetti.blogspot.com/

Monday, January 17, 2011

Mindset Monday 1/17/11- FLOW while you compete Pt.2

Continued from last week…

Dr. David Lieberman describes this IDEAL STATE as he calls it:

"Your ideal state of mind is to have no ego and this is achieved by focusing solely on your objective. This will allow you to be unconcerned with how you are coming across and help you avoid second-guessing yourself. If you are absorbed with your objective, the "I" or the ego disappears and you can pursue your goal relentlessly. Focus only on the outcome, not on yourself."

Surely when Dr. Lieberman speaks of focusing on your objective, he means focusing on executing your mission, not on how to do it, and certainly not on winning. When you watch McElwain and Jordan below, they are achieving Flow by thinking about making baskets, not on winning the game. The winning is a byproduct of making baskets.
Letting Go and Trusting your instincts is another important part of attaining Flow. A common complaint among athletes is that they perform better in practice than in a match or a game. I believe that this phenomena of a "practice room wrestler" is due to the fact that in practice it is easier to LET GO. In practice, these athletes attain, if not, come closer to attaining Flow. They may experience tunnel vision to an optimal extent, not to the extreme. Fluidity and creativity is maintained as one is loose and relaxed with their muscles. Being too in the Zone would create extreme tunnel vision, and overall narrowing of the vision. This is likely what happens when a "practice room wrestler" competes, due to over arousal.

I do not know if there are different levels of Flow and if exists along a continuum, but I would have to believe this is at least somewhat the case. Either way, it seems the more into Flow one becomes, the better.

So if in practice an athlete can come closer to Flow, they will probably perform better (better not in terms of wins or losses, but rather in terms of competing to their potential). If its easier to Let Go in practice, then it logically follows that the athlete will be more into Flow and thus perform better.

A more technical name for Flow is what Sport Psychologists call Ideal Peak Performance State (IPPS). They say there are 7 characteristics of IPPS.

(1) Total Concentration (focused on the Here and Now. Living in the present moment).

(2) Clear Goals (the clear objective we spoke of earlier)

(3) Lack of Self-Awareness (loss of the ego and audience and audience evaluations).

(4) Unambiguous Feedback (Clearly seeing things as they are. Also includes no value judgements of good or bad associated with actions. Not thinking, yet not dreaming, ready for whatever may come).

(5) Sense of Control (In a sense that the person is competent enough to perform the task, the task must be a challenge, neither over challenging or under utilizing the person's present skills) It is a little bit of a stretch of the persons current skill level, hence it is within their control, and the person is aware of this

(6) Autotelic (Self-Goals) Experience (Intrinsic Motivation, the process becomes its own reward)

(7) Transformation of Time (Which some report, make time seem to slow down during the task, but paradoxically seems fast once the task is over).
How Does it feel to be in Flow? (basically corresponds with the 7 characteristics of Flow):

1. Completely involved in the experience. Focus and concentration.

2. Sense of ecstasy. Greater than normal.

3. Inner clarity. Knowing what needs to be done and how to do it.

4. Sense of Control (we spoke of just above).

5. Sense of Serenity (loss of ego and evaluations)

6. Timelessness (Happens in a flash, things fly by).

7. Intrinsic Motivation (we spoke of before).

Warch FLOW in action next week: Jason McElwain and Michael Jordan

Gene Zannetti
Peak Performance Specialist
One-on-One Consultation and Motivational Speaking
(908) 337-6143
genezannetti@gmail.com
Visit My Blog- http://genezannetti.blogspot.com/

Monday, January 10, 2011

Mindset Monday 1/10/11- FLOW everytime you Perform

Some athletes call it “the Zone” others call it “Flow,” scholars call it “the Ideal Peak Performance State (IPPS).” The feeling that you cannot miss, where time and accuracy seem to be moving and acting at your command. All good athletes and performers know this feeling. When you compete, the idea is to be in this state as often as possible. My next few Mindset Mondays will explore the concept of Flow in greater depth and how to facilitate its occurrence. I do not think Flow is something you can force to happen, as ‘Trying’ seems counterproductive as you shall soon see.

Flow is an experience (not exclusive to sports) where a person is immersed in an activity and has their mind focused on the present moment while losing consciousness of ego, self-evaluations, and the audience and audience evaluations. Things seem to fall into place as the unconscious takes over and a self-transcendence is reached.

Many athletes call this experience being "In the Zone." They use the words in the Zone and Flow interchangeably. I do not believe that the Zone and Flow are one and the same. I can differentiate between the two.

I know I have been in the Zone every wrestling match in which I ever competed. But, it was only in rare occasions where I felt Flow. I believe the Zone may be a prerequisite for Flow. But, being in the Zone will not inevitably lead to Flow. There may be several steps necessary to achieving Flow.

I will differentiate between the two now. While in the Zone, one feels as though they are In the Moment. There is a Buddhist word for being in the Here and Now- Satori. I loved to compete because when I was on the mat, I was not thinking about my school work, girl problems, etc. I became focused on the present moment.
To me, being in the Present Moment, here and now, represents the Zone. I'm sure athletes share this common experience with me. This tunnel vision results from a moderate amount of arousal or anxiety. It can be harmful the tunnel vision becomes extreme. This will close your mind to creativity and fluidity, both necessary components of Flow. But in the Zone you can still be self-conscious and aware of other people's evaluations and expectations.

Flow is the Zone, plus the relative absence of self & others consciousness. You and the experience become one and the same. In a sense, you lose yourself. This principle is by no means new. Many cultures all over the world have known about this concept for thousands of years, not the least of which being the Eastern cultures and the principle of Zen.

As stated above, a major prerequisite of Flow is the loss of one's ego. Listen to how Dr. David Lieberman describes this IDEAL STATE as he calls it:
"Your ideal state of mind is to have no ego and this is achieved by focusing solely on your objective. This will allow you to be unconcerned with how you are coming across and help you avoid second-guessing yourself. If you are absorbed with your objective, the "I" or the ego disappears and you can pursue your goal relentlessly. Focus only on the outcome, not on yourself."

To be continued…

Gene Zannetti
Peak Performance Specialist
One-on-One Consultation and Motivational Speaking
(908) 337-6143
genezannetti@gmail.com
Visit My Blog- http://genezannetti.blogspot.com/

Monday, January 3, 2011

Mindset Monday 1/3/11- Resolve This for the New Year

Resolve This for the New Year-

Some of the greatest Peak Performance advice I ever heard was from the great Notre Dame coach Lou Holtz.

On the topic of Resilience he said:

“Life is not always as good as it seems, and its not always as bad as it seems, but somewhere between there reality falls.”

Resolve to Bounce back from mistakes and losses. Never Stay Down!

We cannot allow an opponent or circumstance to defeat us twice in a row.

Sometimes in life we will lose, but we should not allow that loss to affect our minds to the point that they hurt us again in the future. Think of an athlete or loses to a team that they “shouldn’t.” Now, I do not like even thinking in terms of “shoulds’ and expectations, but that’s a topic for another time. But after the team or athlete loses, they sometimes get down on themselves and wallow in self pity, leading to another loss to yet another inferior team. In essence, they let the first opponent beat them twice. We cannot allow this to happen.

We will be successful because we never had problems or obstacles, but because we solve them. And because there is no price we are not willing to pay to make sure we succeed.

“Remember the good Lord put eyes in the front of your head instead of the back so you can see where you are going, not where you’ve been.”

Imagine driving your car for any distance while starring through the rear view mirror. There is a reason why the windshield is 10x bigger than the rear-view mirror. Yes it is good to look back at the past from time to time. But we should spend the majority of our time focusing on the present and future.
Whatever life throws at you, you must bounce back.

In Rocky Balboa Stallone says, “it’s not about how hard you can hit, it’s about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward, how much you can take.”

It’s your choice to stay down or to get up and fight another round. Put your gloves back on and get back in the ring!

Resolve to Never Stay Down!

Gene Zannetti
Peak Performance Specialist
One-on-One Consultation and Motivational Speaking
(908) 337-6143
genezannetti@gmail.com
Visit My Blog- http://genezannetti.blogspot.com/