No matter what field you are in, it is crucial that you understand Control. You must make this concept of Control work FOR YOU, not against you.
Studies repeatedly show that people who believe that they control their destiny have greater success than those who believe that their success is determined by outside factors, like luck or circumstance. The scientific name for this concept is Locus of Control (you can type this word into Google Scholar to see the studies for yourself). If you want to be successful, then you better believe that YOU control your destiny.
We do not control outcomes directly! We cannot control success, wins, etc. directly. There are many extenuating circumstances that play a role in outcomes. BUT, we can ALWAYS control 2 things: (1) our individual effort (2) our Attitude (approaching your activity with positivity, willingness to improve, and belief that you can succeed). IF you control these 2 factors, you can feel confident that you control your destiny. We control our outcomes INDIRECTLY by focusing on Effort and Attitude. You cannot guarantee success, but you can increase your chances.
You must realize we cannot control circumstances outside our control: referees bad calls, coaches decisions, weather, other people’s opinions of us, luck of the draw, etc. etc. etc. Trying to control these factors are at the root of clinically diagnosable Anxiety and Depression. You must become effective at discerning what you can control versus what you cannot. Life will be unnecessarily painful if you do not grasp this concept.
Think about people you know who try to control things outside their control. Chances are, they are a mess mentally. Sales Instructor Jeffrey Gitomer said it best when he said to resign your position as leader of the world, and start thinking about yourself (not in a selfish way). We all know people who constantly give others advice on how to change, and then when they are given advice they say they cannot control that. They say, “that’s just the way I am.” This is very annoying and inaccurate. The only person you can control is yourself.
Now think of people you know who focus their energy on Self-Control: controlling their (1) effort (2) attitude. Did you ever notice how very little stands in their way? These people bounce back from mistakes and persist diligently toward their goals. AND, THEY ARE HAPPIER PEOPLE! Because they don’t waste time and energy on things outside of their control!
Understand Control and make it work to your advantage. Studies show you will be more successful and happier. Have your cake and eat It too!
Gene Zannetti
Peak Performance Specialist
One-on-One Consultation and Motivational Speaking
(908) 337-6143
genezannetti@gmail.com
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